Here are my go to recommendations for books, programs and all things relationship related.

Books I Love:

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The Body Keeps The Score

by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.

Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, one of the world’s foremost experts on trauma, has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers’ capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust.

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Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship 

by Terrence Real

Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness—and there’s also not much that’s more important.

At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counselor Terrence Real sees how it poisons intimate relationships in his therapy practice, where he works with couples on the brink of disaster. The good news: Warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools.

Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love

by Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller, J. Keith Miller

This is a brilliant and raw book on real problems that face both men and women in relationships.

Fierce Intimacy: Standing Up to One Another with Love

by Terry Real


• The adaptive child―how to recognize and defuse self-sabotaging habits
• Unhealthy self-esteem traps for men and women
• Identifying your CNI (Core Negative Image)―a key to making arguments constructive instead of destructive
• The Feedback Wheel―a four-step approach to revolutionize your communication
• The Five Losing Strategies: our impulses to control, retaliate, and be right all the time
• The Five Winning Strategies for shared happiness, connection, and success

After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful, 2nd edition.

by Janis A. Spring

this newly revised and updated edition of After the Affair is essential reading.

Children Learn What They Live

by Dorothy Law Nolte Ph.D., Rachel Harris L.C.S.W. Ph.D.

An excellent book when looking for a parenting philosophy.

Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives

by Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller, J. Keith Miller

A forceful description of how people who are raised in a dysfunctional or abusive environment often sabotage and cripple their lives.

Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love

by Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller, J. Keith Miller

This is a brilliant and raw book on real problems that face both men and women in relationships.

Gifts From A Challenging Childhood: Creating A Practice for Becoming Your Healthiest Self

by Jan Bergstrom LMHC

Whether you experienced traumatic neglect or excessive control and enmeshment at the hands of your parents, this book will not only help you identify what went wrong for you, it will also provide you with validating, supportive and compassionate ways to reparent yourself.”

How To Raise An Adult 

by Julie Lythcott-Haims 

In How to Raise an Adult, Julie Lythcott-Haims draws on research, on conversations with admissions officers, educators, and employers, and on her own insights as a mother and as a student dean to highlight the ways in which overparenting harms children, their stressed-out parents, and society at large. While empathizing with the parental hopes and, especially, fears that lead to overhelping, Lythcott-Haims offers practical alternative strategies that underline the importance of allowing children to make their own mistakes and develop the resilience, resourcefulness, and inner determination necessary for success.

I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

by Terrence Real

A well written book about male depression, filled with case studies that Terry has overseen throughout his years as a psychotherapist.

If the Buddha Dated: A Handbook for Finding Love on a Spiritual Path

by Charlotte Kasl

This is for the single person who is interested in a self study about the type of person they want to be with.

It’s Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health (The Family Library 10-13 yr old)

by Robie H. Harris  (Author),
Michael Emberley (Illustrator)

When young people have questions about sex, real answers can be hard to find. Providing accurate, unbiased answers to nearly every imaginable question, from conception and puberty to birth control and AIDS, It’s Perfectly Normal offers young people the information they need — now more than ever — to make responsible decisions and to stay healthy

Parenting With Love And Logic (Updated and Expanded Edition)

by Foster Cline, Jim Fay

Everyone should have a copy! Take a read, have a laugh…Little did I know I parenting did not have to be as hard as I was making it.  Boy did I have a lot to learn.

Stop Struggling With Your Child: Quick-Tip Parenting Solutions That Will Work For You and Your Kids Ages 4 – 12

by Evonne Weinhaus  (Author),
Karen Friedman (Author)

A reassuring parenting guide provides a four-step program that emphasizes routines, responsibility, cooperation, and self-esteem

The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work

by Terrence Real

Get your marriage back on track! Terry does a great job!

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to recognize it and how to respond

by Patricia Evans

If you are questioning whether or not your are verbally abused this is a must read!

You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse: The #1 System for Recovery from Toxic Relationships

by Melanie Tonia Evans  (Author), Christiane Northrup M.D. (Foreword)

Heal your pain and break free from your abusive relationship with this unique recovery program designed by one of the world’s leading authorities on narcissistic abuse

1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12

by Thomas W. Phelan PhD

So when you what to kill your kid-take some advice from 123. Trust me, it helps!

Industry Leaders:

Learn about some of the people who have helped and inspired me!

Dave Kreuger

CEO of MentorPath®, a coaching, publishing, and wellness firm. His ROADMAP® system guides a seven step process of change to actively incorporate new dimensions of personal, career, relationship, and financial growth.

Jan Bergstrom

What is the practice of being relational? It starts with the Five Core principles for healthy living: loving the self, protecting the self (through use of internal boundaries), creating and knowing the self, taking care of the self by asking for what you need and want interdependently, and containing and moderating the self (Pia Mellody). My treatment with clients incorporates the foundational underpinnings that create healing, growth and renewal.

Terry Real

Terry Real is an internationally recognized Family Therapist and Author and is under contract as the Relationship Expert for Good Morning America and ABC News. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples/individuals. 

Lisa Merlo Booth

Lisa is an experienced relationship coach who has worked with hundreds of women who have become more effective communicators at work, at home and in their relationships.

Health and Wellness

Looking for support? Here are some health and wellness groups that I recommend.

Pathways Institute
Pathways Institute: A place to find your true heart center offering, workshops and retreats.

Austin Chiropractic
Works with each person on an individual level to educate and adjust them toward optimal health using natural chiropractic care.

Aan Dora Salon
Have a ME Day! Hair cutting & coloring, styling, bridal & special occasion styles, skincare, makeup, and more!